Everyone is affected and there is no “bad guy”, there are wounded people- wounded parts. However, not all parts have equal responsibility in interactions and not all people have equal culpability. I heard multiple times “you and your mother…” or “why can’t you and your mother...”, as if a child had the same level of authority, experience, power, and responsibility as the parent, let alone the addict. Putting voice to this I realized I had been gaslit by the trap of moral equi

I have a part of me that would get foggy when I wanted to talk about gaslighting.....

by Alisa Schneidman I have dealt with a lot of bullies throughout my life, and maybe twice as many enablers and apologists. It started at...

For so long, and from so many people I have heard “Mercury is going into Retrograde” with a sense of dread and resignation...

Being the witness versus witnessing is a subtle difference in wording but makes a world of difference in our healing process.

By: Alisa Schneidman Yesterday, I was thinking this is Children of Alcoholics Week, and I needed to write something.  I was drawing a...

By: Alisa Schneidman February holds so many special dates.  Dylan’s birthday (the rest of the world calls it Valentine’s Day), The House...

NOBODY DOES WINTER NAPS LIKE MY CATS... By: Alisa Schneidman Happy New Year to all of you. I am not big on Holidays, it’s so busy and...

BY: Alisa Schneidman Hi everyone, Typically, I send out a newsletter on the 15th of the month, but I made the decision to hold off until...

Compassion- not this word. I can hear a part of me dreading this, literally saying, “ugh, do I have to?” Yes, I really do. Seeing that...