Everyone is affected and there is no “bad guy”, there are wounded people- wounded parts. However, not all parts have equal responsibility in interactions and not all people have equal culpability. I heard multiple times “you and your mother…” or “why can’t you and your mother...”, as if a child had the same level of authority, experience, power, and responsibility as the parent, let alone the addict. Putting voice to this I realized I had been gaslit by the trap of moral equi