Happy is a feeling not a state of being. I am not someone who preaches stay positive all the time or be grateful for a shit storm, because that's not real and I believe in being real. You don't have to be grateful for things that hurt you, for people who have abused you, or things that have been traumatic. No. I DO believe in finding the gift, and even assholes can bear gifts and lessons. My worst teachers have taught me a lesson, even if it was simply I don't want to walk ba